Unless you had a colicky baby, it is something that those parents who have not experienced it won’t understand. An experience that I wish on no parent, especially a first time mom.
Experiencing motherhood for the second time, had to be a breeze. Or so I thought. She was a full term baby, healthy and breastfed. This was completely opposite to our first birthing experience.
Remembering our first experience with colic 8 years ago. When our second daughter, Mika, developed it at 4 weeks old. Crying non-stop from 18h00 – 22h00 at night. Colic was something unforeseen as we didn’t go through it with our first daughter. Creeping up on us out of the blue. It was a predictable scene that played off in front of us every single night.
Our pediatrician confirmed that our baby had colic. Although there is no factual evidence of what causes colic, there are factors that can influence the excessive crying. These factors are an immature digestive system, acid reflux and lactose intolerance.
Thinking that we would get a quick fix for this colic problem, only to be told by our pediatrician that it is normal, that there is no cure and that it will eventually end. We were given some soothing strategies to use to ease the colic. Which included baby massage techniques, colic drops and to use a probiotic. Some of the strategies offered comfort and some didn’t.
We swaddled her, put her in a baby sling and rocked her to the sounds of Michael Bublé and Kenny G. Putting her in the car seat and driving around helped. But the minute we pulled into the driveway and the car came to a stop, the crying would start all over again.
Colic really tests your ability as a parent. Knowing that there is nothing you can do to ease your baby’s plight with colic. It causes frustration, anger, doubt and an emotional breakdown. To be honest, I didn’t enjoy mothering this baby. Sometimes I just walked away, leaving my husband to take care of the situation.
As a mother, I was on the brink of losing my marbles but I had to keep it together for the sake of my child and my family. It was exhausting to say the least. Although the colic scenes played off at night, she was also a light sleeper during the day. Taking short naps of about 45 minutes. Slight noises would wake her. She wanted to sleep in my arms and the minute I put her down she would wake up. Making it very difficult for me to do anything else around the house or even take a nap during the day.
I wanted to go nowhere with her. The questions and stares of people irritated me when my baby cried. People tried to be helpful and offer advice but this was in vain.
Finally around 4 months, the crying subsided. Her daily sleeping routine improved and she slept for 3 hours at a time. By 7 months, she was sleeping through the night.
We survived it and so can you. Just hang in there. Take care of yourself and rely on support. Not all babies are the same so don’t compare your baby to another who does not have colic.
Colic is a mystery, doctors have no cure, it is something that is unexplained. What is important to note is that it is just like a stormy season that does not last forever. Once you get through the storm, the clouds will eventually fade and the sun will shine.