I spot you everywhere. In the workplace, church, parent groups, in the company of friends and family. Some people cannot handle you. They try to avoid you like the plague. Perhaps you are not aware of this or that you are a narcissist. Do you even know what it means?
Let me enlighten you.
You are that person who thinks you are superior and see no one as your equal. Compared to others, you view yourself differently – more important. Similarly, your ego, status and titles are everything to you. You strive for perfection and constantly boast about yourself and what you possess.
In the beginning you are very charming and persuasive, putting up a facade to lure people into your space. Once you have gained their trust, you become domineering. Making it difficult for them to distance themselves from you.
When someone else have something to say; you get impatient. Quite often you show no interest and would quickly change the topic and talk about yourself. Always interrupting others who are still talking. You verbalize your opinions forcefully; in other words you will dominate the conversation in every aspect.
You think you know it all and would disregard someone else’s opinion. Talking down to people in an insulting condescending way comes second nature to you. Causing people to feel degraded, small and worse about themselves. You have that ability to instantly silence those around you. It is impossible for you to see someone else’s perspective.
Losing is never an option and you crave to win at all times – therefore making you highly competitive. You thrive to be in control and do not care what it takes to get what you want. In doing so, you break the rules, manipulate, lie and bully to get the upper hand. On the rare occasion when you do lose, you find it difficult to congratulate the next person on their achievements or to give a compliment.
You constantly seek praise, attention and special treatment. When things don’t go according to your plan, you complain. Often playing the victim and feeling self-pity. Keeping score of everyone else’s wrong-doings but never acknowledging your own faults and shortcomings.
If you are called out or challenged on your actions; you feel intimidated and will immediately go in defensive mode. Sensitive to criticism; all of which indicates that you want to dish it out but can’t take it. When this happens, you feel offended and will always blame others. Provoking you to go on the attack by resenting, getting verbally abusive and spreading bad rumours about those who double crossed you. In addition, you don’t forget and will never forgive; instead you will exploit and seek revenge.
Taking responsibility and admitting to your wrong-doings by apologising for your actions does not exist in your world. You show absolutely no remorse and will always justify your actions.
You prey on other people’s vulnerabilities. Never showing empathy towards those who are hurting around you, on the contrary you will capitalise on it.
People tell you what you want to hear instead of what they truly feel. In fear that you will get rubbed up the wrong way.
Sharing your knowledge or showing kindness to others is not something you do; however if you do give to others; you always do it to benefit yourself. In other words, you expect something in return.
As you have noticed, no positive character traits were written about you. It is a shame, as I always see some good in everyone.
It saddens me that those who choose to stay in a close relationship with you, are your victims. You hurt and damage those around you emotionally and psychologically with your spoken words and in some instances physical actions. Honestly, I don’t know how they can tolerate the abuse as it is clear that you hold the power and are pulling the strings.
As for myself, I keep my distance but can see what you are doing to others. In fact, I actually feel sorry for you as you have a very low self-esteem and need to cover it up with this narcissist mask.
Perhaps you will never change and will continue to be selfish, manipulative and malicious; inflicting pain on those around you. Eventually those who are currently your victims will grow tired, they will have enough and leave. At the end, you will look in the mirror and all you will see is a person who is self-centered but yet very lonely.
In conclusion, I don’t know how you became like this – perhaps you were once a victim at the hand of a bully or abuser. However, you desperately need psychological help. You might seem untouchable now but just remember that “Karma” gives you back what you give to others.