The Puberty Talk: Things I’m sharing with my daughter that my mother never told me

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Not too long ago, I mentioned to my husband that it is time to have the puberty talk with our eldest daughter. I kind of joked with him and asked if he would like to have the honour of performing this duty.  He just raised an eyebrow and said “rather you than me”.

The thing is I didn’t expect him to jump for joy when I made this gesture. Although there are many fathers who feel completely comfortable in having this conversation with their daughters; and I’m pretty sure that my husband would’ve done an excellent job at it by giving our daughter the basic information. But the thing is he has never in his life experienced ovulation, period pains, PMS or went through child birth. Outnumbered by females; I can’t help but feel sorry for the guy as the odds are against him. Soon he will have to deal with a house full of hormonal females. I can however say with certainty that as a father he will give our daughters all the support they need including purchasing sanitary pads or tampons. (more…)


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9 Strategic tips to cope with back-to-school anxiety

9 strategic tips cope back-to-school anxiety

Going back to school after the summer vacation can be tough on certain kids. The transition from vacation to school is not always smooth sailing during the first or even second week of the new school term. Not all kids are super excited to start school. One of those kids is my youngest daughter, Mika. School is not her favourite place to look forward to after a fun-filled holiday break. In fact, she wish to be home-schooled as she stressed this to us repeatedly. Unlike Lea (my other daughter) who is always eager for the new school year to start; Mika is not so enthusiastic.

For the past three years, since starting Grade 1, Mika has been experiencing back-to-school anxiety.  She would get physically ill. Her blood pressure would drop resulting in dizziness, vomiting and complaints of headaches and stomach cramps. But we always insisted on school attendance and only in severe cases would keep her home. Usually by the second week of the new school year, she has settled in and all is forgotten. (more…)


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Attitude Gratitude – December Journal

Attitude Gratitude December Journal

People, we have reached day 365 of 2018! How crazy is that?

December went by incredibly fast but it was a great month.  So you’ve noticed that I have been a bit quiet during the month of December.  Well I have made a point of it to disconnect for a while and to connect with family and friends.

Here are some things I was grateful for during December. (more…)


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10 Affordable and Thoughtful Christmas Gift Ideas

10 Affordable Thoughtful Christmas Gift Ideas

There are some of us who can afford to purchase expensive gifts for our loved ones and friends; and then there are others who simply can’t afford to splurge. Christmas is a time for giving but not at the expense of getting yourself into debt and being cash strapped come January.  Let’s face it this year has been tough on consumers.  But hey, don’t allow the economy to be the Grinch who spoils your Christmas. Giving doesn’t have to be extravagant and cost a fortune.  However do put some thought into your gift giving. Allow me to share 10 Affordable and Thoughtful Christmas Gift Ideas that won’t break your budget. (more…)


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Attitude Gratitude November Journal

Attitude gratitude November journal

How crazy is it that we are already at the end of November, people? Life is just flying past. November was another busy month filled with activities and events. It has been a month that was filled with many highs and a low.

As I am about to bid farewell to November and welcome December; here is a summary of what I was grateful for this month. (more…)


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My most disfavored small talk question

disfavored small talk question

You know that awkward feeling when you meet someone for the first time. That feeling when you suddenly need to step out of your shell and fill the air with some chitchat. Now here’s the thing, making small talk to cut through the stiff atmosphere is common. We all do it – right. Ok perhaps not all, unless you hide in a corner to avoid people entirely – but most of us do. So here is what really gets my goat; when someone start a conversation and immediately revert to my least favourite question.

And that question is “What do you do?”

Somehow that is the first default question that tends to pop out of people’s mouths. To me it is an immediate conversation killer and it is not a question I find welcoming.

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Haze by Christine Bernard | Book Review & Giveaway

Haze Christine Bernard Book Review Giveaway

Hello lovelies, I hope you are all well.  Let me just take a second to apologise for being so quiet of late. But this time of the year things are generally crazy in my world.

But hey that is no excuse, so I will pull myself together and start writing more.

So let me get back to the book that I am reviewing. Haze is the second book I read by Christine Bernard, a South African author. This book really reminded me about our relationships with the ones we love and how being too consumed in our own little world can compromise those relationships.

If you are planning to read this book, I promise not to reveal too much. At the end of this review, I will be doing an ebook copy giveaway of Haze.

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Why jeans shopping is an unpleasant and tedious task

 

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This past weekend I went shopping with the intention to find the perfect pair of jeans. I knew finding that perfect pair wouldn’t be easy but I also did not expect it to be an unpleasant and tedious task.

To be blunt – it was demoralizing.

Look, I get the whole “our bodies change as we get older” explanation. Damn, I get it clearly as I’m experiencing it.

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Attitude Gratitude – October Journal

Hey peeps! Can’t believe it’s actually 1 November. How quick has this year gone by? It’s crazy to think that we literally only have 2 months left of 2018.

October has been a bit of a laid back month for me. I can’t quite put my finger on it because it had the same busy routine as all the other months, perhaps I just took things in my stride. Sometimes it’s good just to slow down and let all the craziness just unfold around you.  Also we have been experiencing adverse weather patterns with a heatwave that swept through the Western Cape last week; so that could also have been a contributing factor to my unperturbed attitude.

Here is a summary of what I was grateful for during October:

Medical Aid

Medical aid in South Africa is very costly and many don’t have this benefit. Driving past the day hospital every day and witnessing how people queue in a line at 06h00 in the morning for healthcare makes me appreciative for what I have. I am extremely grateful that my family and I have the benefits of medical aid which allows us immediate access to health care  More so that I work for an organisation who provides this benefit to its employees at an affordable cost.

Collaboration

I recently attended a Vision Board Workshop as part of a blogger collaboration with Sonja McKaiser from The Creative Space with Sonja. I am forever grateful for this opportunity and that I was selected to participate in this workshop. Attending the vision board workshop gave me a new perspective on my future goals. During this process I recognised my dreams, hopes and fears and the things that are holding me back.

Kind Gestures

This month there were two incidents that made my heart happy. The first incident was when my daughters and I went shopping and we were at the fruit and veg section. A customer by accident let the whole cart of apples fall over. Instead of walking past, my daughters assisted by picking up all the apples out of their own free will.

The second incident was when a colleague unexpectedly treated me to lunch. Sometimes people surprise you when you least expect it. I  am grateful for the generosity and great working relationship.

Shared Knowledge and Skills

We had a bit of car trouble and thank goodness I have a husband who is hands on. Even more so that I have a dad who is a retired motor mechanic. Although my dad is getting old and is doing things at a slower pace; I am thankful that he can still share his knowledge and skills with my husband. They managed to fix the problem.

Soberoctober

If you don’t know by now, I gave up alcohol for a month. Not that I’m a huge alcohol drinker and get completely sloshed – that happened in my 20’s. But I do like socialise with a glass or two – ok make it five. Different countries have different campaigns associated to this challenge. In the UK the campaign is in support of cancer and in South Africa it is to raise awareness about alcohol abuse. My reasons for abstaining from alcohol was in support of both cancer and alcohol abuse.

Let me just say that my entire October was filled with social events where great food and of course alcohol was served. So it was a bit of a challenge. Nevertheless, I resisted the temptation and am grateful that I had the strength to persevere and follow through with this challenge.

Trusted Confidant

I am grateful that someone trust me enough to share their personal problems with me. Sometimes all they need is someone to listen, empathize and encourage them without giving advice. I am thankful and honored that this person feels safe sharing their personal struggles with me and that I can give the assurance that what is shared will stay confidential.

Time with family

Time with family is always special for me. It is something that no amount of money can ever buy. I am grateful for the laughter, the conversations and memories made.

I hope you all have a fantastic November!


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Creating a Vision Board – The Creative Space with Sonja

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“If you can dream it, you can do it.”  Sound familiar? We’ve heard it before and yes we all dream; but how many of us put our dreams into actions. Sometimes it is not all that easy. Often life has a way of throwing a curve ball at you and you place your dreams on hold. And before you know it, it becomes non-existent.

Writing down your goals are fantastic but hiding what you transcribed in a draw is meaningless. Goals need an applied mindset and commitment, without that, chances are it will never manifest into real achievements. Honestly speaking, this is exactly where I found myself. Looking back over the past 10 years; I’ve only achieved 7 of the 10 goals I set for myself.

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