Remember that 80’s song by The Temptations – “Treat her like a lady”. Yip that one with the catchy beat that you can sing along to whilst doing the dishes or sitting in your car. Ok, so perhaps you millennials won’t know the song but you can go Google it here.
The point I’m getting at is that the lyrics of the song resonates with me as I have a chivalrous husband. Common courtesy, kindness and respect are things women crave for in today’s life. Values and convictions are guided by an ever changing world and what society prescribes. But shaping attitudes, beliefs and values at the foundation level will ensure that it is carried throughout life. It should be both men and women’s responsibility to raise children who respect themselves and others. Most importantly shifting our focus to raising boys. Chivalry, honour and respect has to be taught from a young age.
Going back to school after the summer vacation can be tough on certain kids. The transition from vacation to school is not always smooth sailing during the first or even second week of the new school term. Not all kids are super excited to start school. One of those kids is my youngest daughter, Mika. School is not her favourite place to look forward to after a fun-filled holiday break. In fact, she wish to be home-schooled as she stressed this to us repeatedly. Unlike Lea (my other daughter) who is always eager for the new school year to start; Mika is not so enthusiastic.
For the past three years, since starting Grade 1, Mika has been experiencing back-to-school anxiety. She would get physically ill. Her blood pressure would drop resulting in dizziness, vomiting and complaints of headaches and stomach cramps. But we always insisted on school attendance and only in severe cases would keep her home. Usually by the second week of the new school year, she has settled in and all is forgotten. (more…)
As the new school year dawns upon us, these are my back to school wishes for my kids
With my daughters being on vacation for over 6 weeks as their school closed the end of November; I must say it is high time that the 2018 academic year commences. Yip I am one of those moms who are super happy that school is starting.
My kids are older so it is not as if they are starting school for the first time. Gone are the days of having mixed emotions and teary eyes.
I literally have been counting the days from New Year ’s Day. So roll on Wednesday.
Why we opposed grade retention and why it was the best decision for our daughter
Delaying, retaining, repeating, holding back or redshirting. Call it what you want; it is a topic that sparks widespread debates and is a controversial issue. Opposing grade retention or deciding to retain is a decision that parents need to make.
In South Africa children may start school early. They can start at age 4 and a half providing they turn 5 by 30 June in Grade R. Likewise for Grade 1, they can start at age 5 and a half providing they turn 6 by 30 June. However, legislation in South Africa stipulates that children must start Grade 1 in the year they turn 7. Irrespective in which month they celebrate their birthday.
Should we scrap school homework? Or are we as parents making a big deal out of nothing?
I remember being in primary school in the 1980s and finishing off high school in the early 1990s, receiving homework; perhaps not every day but we received homework. Homework back then was about doing the odd assignment, completing a worksheet or two, writing an essay or doing a few math sums. Most importantly we had time for play. Some form of punishment was given for incomplete homework. But homework back then was minimal with almost no parental involvement. Teachers taught in class. With that background, I was all set on kids getting homework.
Exam time – whose stress it it anyway and is the stress getting to the parents
It is that time of the year again when learners are sitting for their mid-year exams. This is a very stressful time. But whose stress is it anyway when it comes to exams.
Last year when my eldest daughter was in Grade 4 she wrote her first exam in June. What a stressful experience it was; I suppose more so for the parents than for her or so we think. And of course it doesn’t make it any easier when your child has this willy-nilly, “I will sit with my books in my own time” attitude. She received a study timetable from her teacher more than a month before the actual exam dates. There was enough time for her to revise and to be well prepared for the exam. However it was a constant check up on when she was going to sit and study and what she needs to study as she did not see the seriousness in the matter.
Finding space for your child at a school can be a daunting and stressful experience
You have applied before the closing date in March. Now you are frantically waiting on a call from your preferred school. Gone are the days when we could just get an application form from our local public school and enroll our precious beings to start their scholastic path. Now the intense demand for space is beyond stressful. Parents go through all sorts of lengths to get their children into a good quality school. They purchase property in the catchment areas. Place their child’s name on a waiting list since birth. Getting themselves into debt to pay high tuition fees.
For some this thought only crosses their mind when their child nears the age of entering preschool. When your journey of finding the perfect school for your child starts; brace yourself for a halluva of a ride. The demand for finding space at a good quality private or public school can be intense, challenging and outright stressful. (more…)