The other night we had an impromptu coffee date. We had an appointment that finished earlier than expected and instead of heading home, we decided to go for a cup of coffee.
Our coffee date was nothing fancy just a very casual date.
The thing is Brent never use to drink coffee but I kind of won him over on that one. Now he is into drinking good strong coffee, from lattes to espressos. There is just something about coffee that gives you that warm cozy feeling. So we popped in at Bootleggers Coffee Shop in Kenilworth for a quick cup of coffee.
Well a quick coffee turned into having something to eat and staying for three hours. We definitely didn’t divulge anything to the grandparents about our date when we got home. So they are still under the impression that we were at our meeting till that time.
As previously mentioned dates are important in our marriage. The irony with marriage is, you live together and see each other every day but due to life’s demands it doesn’t mean you connect. Relationships are very important to me and my marriage is my number one priority.
Like parenting kids, marriage can be hard sometimes and it requires a lot of attention. The same as with parenting, marriage certainly doesn’t come with an instruction manual. However the difference is, you won’t just abandon your child so why do it to your marriage. Unlike parenting, people quite to easily at marriage.
Often having children transforms your relationship with your spouse or partner. You become complacent and stop doing the things you used to before having children. Scheduling time for each other can be a snag sometimes with the unforeseen always popping up. Dating doesn’t have to be a challenge or an effort – it is about spending quality than quantity time together. You don’t have to go out to a special place, you can set up a date night at home. Very casual and inexpensive.
So drop the excuses and make it happen!