This past weekend I went shopping with the intention to find the perfect pair of jeans. I knew finding that perfect pair wouldn’t be easy but I also did not expect it to be an unpleasant and tedious task.
To be blunt – it was demoralizing.
Look, I get the whole “our bodies change as we get older” explanation. Damn, I get it clearly as I’m experiencing it.
Let me tell you what I don’t comprehend. I don’t comprehend why fashion designers and retail buyers don’t cater for all body types when it comes to jeans.
Surely they must know that skinny jeans is not for everyone.
Now the thing is, I’m all about being body positive and accepting my shape and size but I don’t have the thinnest of legs and thighs added to that I have a well-rounded booty. To throw in some more awkwardness to my shape, my top size is different to that of the bottom part of my body. So finding a clothing item in any other material is easy. But denim is not that forgiving. I want a jeans that will keep all my assets in tack. When I bend, I don’t want my butt crack to show. I want to walk and sit comfortably.
As jeans is my most worn-item in my cupboard, I definitely shop with comfort in mind. It should have a bit of stretch, look flattering on my body; sculpting my shape perfectly and lift my but. I look for a jeans that fits both my hip and length perfectly. It shouldn’t rise down when I bend, showing my butt crack.
But here’s the problem I have; retailers are overstocking on skinny jeans. Curvy skinny, super skinny, low rise skinny, high rise skinny and shaping skinny. Mind you, in all possible colours too.
Isn’t that just depressing?
Look I don’t event attempt fitting on a skinny jeans. Past experiences has taught me that it is an undertaking that leaves me exhausted and flustered. The tugging, squeezing and pulling is just off putting. And when I finally manage to get it on; I then struggle to get it off.
Other than the skinny, there is the bootleg jeans, which I loathe with a passion. That style just doesn’t suit me. The thing with bootleg jeans is you need to be thin and tall. Yes I’m fairly tall but I’m not thin around the hips and upper legs. With a bootleg, the attention will be drawn to my hips and knees.
Then you find the jeggings, which is ok-ish as it has a lot of stretch but you can’t really classify it as denim. I own about 3 pairs of those but my mission wasn’t to find a legging fit.
Still scouting for that perfect jeans, I come across the “mom jeans” at a particular department store. Very high waisted and most of the styles were still stuck in the 90’s trend. I’ve fitted these and they are just not complimentary. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve seen mom jeans online, and they look amaze-balls but shopping online for a jeans without fitting it runs the risk of it not being my size.
Finally my eye catches a regular fit or boyfriend jeans, only to be disappointed to see it is either faded, embellished, ripped and ragged. Now if I wanted a ripped or ragged jeans, I can take a scissor and do that myself. It’s absurd to pay a ridiculous amount of money for this type of jeans.
Most great denims comes with a high price tag. In my 20’s and early 30’s, Levi was my only choice of denim. And I still believe that it’s a brand that gives you various options in finding that perfect fit. However we all know that the price of a Levi is not reasonable.
Point is, there is nothing more frustrating than walking into a clothing store in search of the perfect jeans; just to discover there are none. Finding the perfect pair for my body type is like pulling chicken teeth. If only, it could’ve been so easy like in the movie “The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants” where an ordinary jeans fitted each one perfectly despite their different body shapes.
Seriously, why must it be such a struggle?
All I want is a normal blue jeans that fits my body type perfectly.
So my attempt to find the perfect jeans failed this past weekend. I’m still on the hunt for it and not throwing in the towel just yet. My desperation might lead me to the men’s department. Hey, who knows I might just find the ultimate pair of jeans there.
When was the last time you shopped for jeans? Did you struggle to find that perfect pair? Drop me a comment, I would love to know about your experience.
Cheers for now!
x x x