• To my beautiful daughters: A mother’s request for Mother’s Day

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    There is no greater love than that of a mother to her child or children. Now this might sound cheesy and like an old cliché but you do know that the best Mother’s Day gift I received was the day the two of you were born.

    With Mother’s Day a couple of days away, I’m sure that you are stressing about what to get me. Or should I say you are hounding your father to come up with a plan and be your financial resource. The latter I don’t mind but this needs to come from the two of you.  As  I did not birth your father and I am by no means his mother. By the way, he is just as clueless when it comes to knowing exactly what I want.

    As your mother, I always put myself last and your needs first. The two of you are now older and considering the fact that since birth you have financially depleted your father and I, it s now the time for you to take on some responsibility when it comes to the planning process.

    So, I will make it easy for the two of you. These are my requests for Mother’s Day.

    No breakfast in bed

    Please do not wake me up and serve me breakfast in bed.  I want to sleep in and wake up at a decent time, which will probably be 07h30 or 08h00 as I can’t really sleep late. Should you prepare a breakfast then I will enjoy it at the dining room table with all of you.

    Time to myself

    Out of the 24 hour day, I request at least 2 hours to myself. During this time I want to relax and read my book.  Anything you want to know, need assistance with or request – ask your father.

    Peace and quiet

    On this day I want no bickering, fighting, screaming, complaining or any form of bad attitude and behaviour.


    Listen first time around. I don’t want to repeat myself 50 times on the day. No selective hearing please. When I talk, I want your undivided attention.


    I want a house that is spick and span, including your bedrooms. Find someone to do the pile of ironing. Load the dishwasher and unload and pack away all crockery, pots and pans when it is clean.


    Instead of eating at a fancy restaurant, I want a lovely home cooked meal.  I have no doubt that your father will make something delicious. The two of you need to assist him with all the preparations.  I also want you to make a lovely dessert – the Peppermint Crisp dessert that you mastered last year.

    Give back

    It is lovely that the Sunday school will be having a program for all the mothers in church and that you will be participating in this.  However, I want the two of you to select one mother (whether in church, in our neighbourhood or extended family) who will be celebrating Mother’s Day alone. I leave this to you to decide how you will make it special for the person you choose.


    Gifts are not really necessary but if you insist; put in some effort. You are more than welcome to give me handcrafted gifts made by you. But please limit this to one each.

    Chocolates will be an acceptable gift. This will be for me to eat alone and not to be shared with the two of you or your father.

    Flowers are always welcome but I need to stress no house plants as I don’t have the time to care for it and keep it alive.

    Please note that I don’t want any bath salts as it impossible for me to lie and soak in a bath considering the current water restrictions. I don’t want any form of lavender or pot pourri scented candles, soap-on-a-rope, hand cream etc as the overpowering smell gives me a headache.

    And most definitely no household appliances.

    Generations Unite

    Mother’s Day is not just about celebrating and appreciating me, you also need to show appreciation and love for your grandmothers. As with me, no requests will be posted to your grandmothers to help you with anything.  Requests can be posted to your father or grandfathers.

    To conclude I want to celebrate this day with my family and I don’t want it any other way. After all the two of you are the reason I am a mother.  I am privileged and super proud to be your mother.

    I reckon this is a simple Mother’s Day request and I sincerely hope that the above will be followed through.

    Love you both so very much,

    MOM x x x x









    1. May 10, 2018 / 11:06 pm

      Our Mother’s day is about my mum and my mother in law too. I’m sort of obsolete in my own mother’s day. However, as long as we are lucky enough to celebrate our mother’s we should be happy to do so! #Stayclassymama

      • Noleen Miller
        May 15, 2018 / 10:15 am

        I was lucky that this year I could relax with my mom and mother-in-law as the rest sorted everything out #stayclassymama

    2. May 11, 2018 / 8:57 pm

      What a lovely post and honest which I admire greatly. Hapy Mother’s day X #stayclassymama

      • Noleen Miller
        May 15, 2018 / 10:13 am

        Thanks #stayclassymama

    3. May 14, 2018 / 5:18 pm

      Love it! And in complete agreement about breakfast in bed. Whoever decided that was a good thing??

      • Noleen Miller
        May 15, 2018 / 10:12 am

        Ha ha ha – don’t know who decided on that but whoever it was must be insane. I don’t like it when I end up eating alone in bed and everyone else is watching me – that is a big no no.

    4. May 14, 2018 / 9:15 pm

      I echo all of these! My priorities would be not having to repeat myself and no bickering. My 3 are too young to cook but I would love them to eat what I put in front of them for a change! Thanks for linking up with #stayclassymama

      • Noleen Miller
        May 15, 2018 / 10:08 am

        I think kids only start grasping what Mother’s Day is really about when they a bit older. As mine is now at that stage, I thought it is time to lay down my requests. Let me tell you it worked out well as they followed through with every single request listed and I had a brilliant Mother’s Day #Stayclassymama

    5. May 16, 2018 / 9:30 pm

      Aaaw my kids are just starting to understand the concept of Mother’s Day and I love all the whispering and plotting that goes on in the lead up to it, and they make cards and stash them away in a “secret” place and they have serious talks with daddy about what activities we’ll do on the day. I hope you had a lovely day. #blogcrush

      • Noleen Miller
        May 17, 2018 / 11:50 am

        My day was so special and they followed on every single request – thanks #blogcrush

    6. May 19, 2018 / 11:22 pm

      This is so lovely! How did Mother’s Day turn out in the end? What I wouldn’t give for 2 hours alone time to do nothing but relax… since Mother’s Day has already passed, I might borrow this idea for my birthday. Thanks for joining us for the #dreamteam xx

      • Noleen Miller
        May 21, 2018 / 9:04 am

        My Mothers day was wonderful thanks and they followed through with every single request. Yes it shouldn’t just end at Mothers Day – go ahead and do it for your birthday #dreamteam

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