• Parental Peer Pressure: The sleepover issue

    parental peer pressure sleepover issue

    From the age of six both my daughters have been receiving invitations for sleepover parties. With the kids being older, sleepover requests are still streaming in. Our stance on this is – we simply do not allow sleepovers at friends.

    Before I continue, sleepover exceptions include staying over at their grandparents and cousins, go on school camps and for the first time this year my eldest daughter went to a one-night group sleepover at school. As for the group sleepover at school; our kids attend an all girls school and the sleepover is a social event organised for a specific grade. Well supervised by female teachers, they have a programme of activities lined up for the girls and they all sleep in the school hall that is secured.

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    12 years of motherhood and loving it

    12 years motherhood loving

    My daughter, Lea is in such a happy mood this morning. Hopping, skipping and singing at the top of her voice. It’s her birthday and she has been waiting for this day to arrive with eager anticipation.  I watch her and smile.  There is so much love that is booming at the moment.  A love that is eternal and unmeasurable.

    As I watch her, an exhilarating feeling comes over me. This child made me a mother. Knowing that my husband and I made this human, and that she is half mine and his DNA. Like my kids will always say “we are the best thing that ever happened to the two of you.”

    And they are spot on, they are the best thing that ever happened to us. Knowing what we know now, life without them would be pretty dull.

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    Liar, liar, pants on fire! Why children tell lies

    liar liar pants fire children tell lies

    Let’s face it we all tell little white lies now and then. Whether it is to protect our children or not to harm someone else’s feelings – we do it.

    But what happens if the lies are constant … more like compulsive lying.

    Even worse what if it’s a child that is constantly lying about everything and anything. You would assume that children are naturally truthful. Well so you would think, turns out it is not the case.

    Today my daughter came home from school pretty devastated. She and her friends are at wits end with one particular friend’s lies.

    So when your child comes home and vents her anger and frustration about the current situation – you listen.

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    Entitlement issues starts at home

    entitlement issues starts home

    Avoid raising a self-centred child and stop indulging a sense of entitlement at home

    Raising a child in the 21st century is not easy.  Especially with the constant demands that society place on us. Falling into the entitlement trap can happen so easily. Perhaps you have been oblivious to the fact that you are already in that trap and didn’t see it coming.

    As you read the following points listed, think about whether one or even more of these are familiar to you.

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    To my beautiful daughters: A mother’s request for Mother’s Day

    beautiful daughters mothers request mothers day

    There is no greater love than that of a mother to her child or children. Now this might sound cheesy and like an old cliché but you do know that the best Mother’s Day gift I received was the day the two of you were born.

    With Mother’s Day a couple of days away, I’m sure that you are stressing about what to get me. Or should I say you are hounding your father to come up with a plan and be your financial resource. The latter I don’t mind but this needs to come from the two of you.  As  I did not birth your father and I am by no means his mother. By the way, he is just as clueless when it comes to knowing exactly what I want.

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