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Noleen Miller May 24, 2021

The dragonfly visitation

It has been a while since I have been active over here but I can assure you that my absence has been for good reason. Since my mom’s death, I have this immense sense of calm and peace. The grieving process has definitely been different this time around than when my dad passed away. Processing the fact that I lost my mom and accepting the reality has been easier. Which is profoundly strange considering the depth of my connection with my mother. Not that I didn’t have a connection with my father or that I loved him any less; my relationship with my mom became much more intentional after he passed away. View Post

Noleen Miller August 20, 2020

To a remarkable mother-in-law

Today has been a day of feelings. I felt broken-hearted, fragile, low, angry, overwhelmed and exhausted. I thought I had this grieving thing under control. After all I’ve been through this before. No matter how many times you experience grief; it’s doesn’t get any easier. It’s flippen hard and damn complicated.It’s been 2 weeks since your passing and today has really hit hard. I had my moment, I was alone at home, the weather was pretty miserable. As the rain drops rolled down the window; so were the tears streaming down my cheeks. I had an uncontrollable reaction to what I have lost – a remarkable mother-in-law, a woman of strength and courage. I broke down and cold no longer suppress my feelings – I had to let go. View Post

Noleen Miller June 24, 2019

The ripple effect of grief

It has been eleven weeks since my father passed away. The phone calls and messages have stopped. No more flowers, cards and visits. In fact, life has returned to normal as if nothing happened. However, my father’s death did happen which caused a ripple effect of grief.

Life as I’ve known it before 6 April 2019 will never be the same again. Removing one person from a family unit which has always been a supportive structure; changes the entire dynamics. Although our family structure is not falling apart; the foundation has slight cracks. Perhaps those who don’t have that kind of unit won’t understand. View Post